Friday, July 25, 2003
This little piece has been on the net for years, but it still is beautiful..
A wise person once wrote:
I've learned that:
...no matter how much I care, some people just don't care back.
...no matter how good a friend someone is, they're going to hurt you every once in a while and you must forgive them for that.
...it takes years to build up trust, and only seconds to destroy it.
...true friendship continues to grow, even over the longest distance. Same goes for true love.
...you can do something in an instant that will give you a heartache for life.
...you should always leave loved ones with loving words. It may be the last time you see them.
...our background and circumstances may have influenced who we are, but we are responsible for who we become.
...you shouldn't compare yourself to the best others can do, but to the best you can do.
...it's not what happens to people that's important. It's what they do about it.
...no matter how thin you slice it, there are always two sides.
...it's taking me a long time to become the person I want to be.
...it's a lot easier to react than it is to think.
...you can keep going long after you think you can't.
...we are responsible for what we do, no matter how we feel.
...either you control your attitude or it controls you.
...sometimes I just need to be held.
...regardless of how hot and steamy a relationship is at first, the passion fades and there had better be something else to take its place.
...heroes are the people who do what has to be done when it needs to be done, regardless of the consequences.
...learning to forgive takes practice.
...there are people who love you dearly, but just don't know how to show it
...money is a lousy way of keeping score.
...my best friend and I can do anything or nothing and have the best time.
...sometimes the people you expect to kick you when you're down will be the ones to help you get back up.
...I'm getting more and more like my grandma, and I'm kinda happy about it.
...sometimes when I'm angry I have the right to be angry, but that doesn't give me the right to be cruel.
...just because someone doesn't love you the way you want them to doesn't mean they don't love you with all they have.
...maturity has more to do with what types of experiences you've had and what you've learned from them and less to do with how many birthdays you've celebrated.
...you should never tell a child her dreams are unlikely or outlandish. Few things are more humiliating, and what a tragedy it would be if she believed it.
...your family won't always be there for you.
...it may seem funny, but people you aren't related to can take care of you and love you and teach you to trust people again. Families aren't biological.
...it isn't always enough to be forgiven by others. Sometimes you have to learn to forgive yourself.
...no matter how bad your heart is broken the world doesn't stop for your grief.
...sometimes when my friends fight, I'm forced to choose sides even when I don't want to.
...just because two people argue, it doesn't mean they don't love each other. And just because they don't argue, it doesn't mean they do.
...sometimes you have to put the individual ahead of their actions.
...we don't have to change friends if we understand that friends change.
...if you don't want to forget something, stick it in your underwear drawer.
...you shouldn't be so eager to find out a secret. It could change your life forever.
...the clothes I like best are the ones with the most holes in them.
...it's not what you have in your life, but who you have in your life that counts.
...two people can look at the exact same thing and see something totally different.
...you cannot make someone love you. All you can do is be someone who can be loved. The rest is up to them.
...no matter how you try to protect your children, they will eventually get hurt and you will hurt in the process.
...there are many ways of falling and staying in love.
...no matter the consequences, those who are honest with themselves, get farther in life.
...many things can be powered by the mind, the trick is self-control.
...no matter how many friends you have, if you are their pillar, you will feel lonely and lost at the times you need them most.
...your life can be changed in a matter of hours by people who don't even know you.
...even when you think you have no more to give, when a friend cries out to you, you will find the strength to help.
...writing, as well as talking, can ease emotional pains.
...the paradigm we live in is not all that is offered to us.
...credentials on the wall do not make you a decent human being.
...the people you care most about in life are taken from you too soon.
...although the word "love" can have many different meaning, it loses value when overly used.
...it's hard to determine where to draw the line between being nice and not hurting people's feelings and standing up for what you believe.
- Author unknown
A wise person once wrote:
I've learned that:
...no matter how much I care, some people just don't care back.
...no matter how good a friend someone is, they're going to hurt you every once in a while and you must forgive them for that.
...it takes years to build up trust, and only seconds to destroy it.
...true friendship continues to grow, even over the longest distance. Same goes for true love.
...you can do something in an instant that will give you a heartache for life.
...you should always leave loved ones with loving words. It may be the last time you see them.
...our background and circumstances may have influenced who we are, but we are responsible for who we become.
...you shouldn't compare yourself to the best others can do, but to the best you can do.
...it's not what happens to people that's important. It's what they do about it.
...no matter how thin you slice it, there are always two sides.
...it's taking me a long time to become the person I want to be.
...it's a lot easier to react than it is to think.
...you can keep going long after you think you can't.
...we are responsible for what we do, no matter how we feel.
...either you control your attitude or it controls you.
...sometimes I just need to be held.
...regardless of how hot and steamy a relationship is at first, the passion fades and there had better be something else to take its place.
...heroes are the people who do what has to be done when it needs to be done, regardless of the consequences.
...learning to forgive takes practice.
...there are people who love you dearly, but just don't know how to show it
...money is a lousy way of keeping score.
...my best friend and I can do anything or nothing and have the best time.
...sometimes the people you expect to kick you when you're down will be the ones to help you get back up.
...I'm getting more and more like my grandma, and I'm kinda happy about it.
...sometimes when I'm angry I have the right to be angry, but that doesn't give me the right to be cruel.
...just because someone doesn't love you the way you want them to doesn't mean they don't love you with all they have.
...maturity has more to do with what types of experiences you've had and what you've learned from them and less to do with how many birthdays you've celebrated.
...you should never tell a child her dreams are unlikely or outlandish. Few things are more humiliating, and what a tragedy it would be if she believed it.
...your family won't always be there for you.
...it may seem funny, but people you aren't related to can take care of you and love you and teach you to trust people again. Families aren't biological.
...it isn't always enough to be forgiven by others. Sometimes you have to learn to forgive yourself.
...no matter how bad your heart is broken the world doesn't stop for your grief.
...sometimes when my friends fight, I'm forced to choose sides even when I don't want to.
...just because two people argue, it doesn't mean they don't love each other. And just because they don't argue, it doesn't mean they do.
...sometimes you have to put the individual ahead of their actions.
...we don't have to change friends if we understand that friends change.
...if you don't want to forget something, stick it in your underwear drawer.
...you shouldn't be so eager to find out a secret. It could change your life forever.
...the clothes I like best are the ones with the most holes in them.
...it's not what you have in your life, but who you have in your life that counts.
...two people can look at the exact same thing and see something totally different.
...you cannot make someone love you. All you can do is be someone who can be loved. The rest is up to them.
...no matter how you try to protect your children, they will eventually get hurt and you will hurt in the process.
...there are many ways of falling and staying in love.
...no matter the consequences, those who are honest with themselves, get farther in life.
...many things can be powered by the mind, the trick is self-control.
...no matter how many friends you have, if you are their pillar, you will feel lonely and lost at the times you need them most.
...your life can be changed in a matter of hours by people who don't even know you.
...even when you think you have no more to give, when a friend cries out to you, you will find the strength to help.
...writing, as well as talking, can ease emotional pains.
...the paradigm we live in is not all that is offered to us.
...credentials on the wall do not make you a decent human being.
...the people you care most about in life are taken from you too soon.
...although the word "love" can have many different meaning, it loses value when overly used.
...it's hard to determine where to draw the line between being nice and not hurting people's feelings and standing up for what you believe.
- Author unknown
"It’s not what you think you are that holds you back, it’s what you think you are not."
Take a minute and think about all the dialogue that goes on in your head while you are playing. Does this thinking help you perform efficiently and productively?
Does this thinking give you added confidence? Is this thinking in your own best interest? I think you’ll be very surprised at the answers. People may or may not be products of their environment, but they are products of their thoughts (Bennett & Pravitz, 1982). What you think becomes your reality.
Many times, you don’t need a competitor or opposing team to beat you. You can do that all on your own by saying negative things to yourself while you are performing or playing a game. You can either be your own best friend or your own worst enemy - the choice is yours. It is very basic - positive self-talk will help your performance, negative self-talk will worsen it. Positive self- talk helps you to develop secure attitudes toward your performance and validates your capabilities. Self-defeating thoughts full of emotion just perpetuate your fears and doubts. Fear, anxiety and doubt are destructive to your mental well-being. Negative self-talk is just setting yourself up for misery. You need to learn to control your emotions or they will control you.
Positive Affirmation Statements Positive affirmation statements are short statements designed to enhance self-image, help you achieve a secure mental attitude and increase confidence. Take, for example, Muhammad Ali’s affirmation "I am the greatest." Other examples are:
"I live for the present."
"I am relaxed."
"I believe in my abilities."
Effective affirmations are clear, realistic, personal, believable and in the present tense. They will also aid you in achieving your goals. Changing your self-talk is going to play an enormous role in increasing your chance for successful performances on a more consistent basis. William Shakespeare said, "Nothing is good or bad, but thinking makes it so." The all important first step in this process is monitoring your own thoughts; the next step is controlling them. If you’re able to control your thoughts, you can accomplish more than you were aware of - the task is a hard one, but more than worth the effort. It’s important to use repetition with your affirmation statements.
Believe wholeheartedly in the affirmations that you are telling yourself. The beliefs we hold were learned and can be unlearned if necessary. Believe what you say, even if it is not true at the moment - when you were "learning" all the limiting beliefs they were also not true (Porter & Foster). "The more positive you think, the more positive results you can expect. That has always been my philosophy and I live with that philosophy," says Bob Quinn, Ex-General Manager, NY Yankees, Cincinnati Reds, SF Giants.
"The one thing over which you have absolute control is your thoughts. It is this that puts you in a position to control your own destiny." Paul G. Thomas
Take a minute and think about all the dialogue that goes on in your head while you are playing. Does this thinking help you perform efficiently and productively?
Does this thinking give you added confidence? Is this thinking in your own best interest? I think you’ll be very surprised at the answers. People may or may not be products of their environment, but they are products of their thoughts (Bennett & Pravitz, 1982). What you think becomes your reality.
Many times, you don’t need a competitor or opposing team to beat you. You can do that all on your own by saying negative things to yourself while you are performing or playing a game. You can either be your own best friend or your own worst enemy - the choice is yours. It is very basic - positive self-talk will help your performance, negative self-talk will worsen it. Positive self- talk helps you to develop secure attitudes toward your performance and validates your capabilities. Self-defeating thoughts full of emotion just perpetuate your fears and doubts. Fear, anxiety and doubt are destructive to your mental well-being. Negative self-talk is just setting yourself up for misery. You need to learn to control your emotions or they will control you.
Positive Affirmation Statements Positive affirmation statements are short statements designed to enhance self-image, help you achieve a secure mental attitude and increase confidence. Take, for example, Muhammad Ali’s affirmation "I am the greatest." Other examples are:
"I live for the present."
"I am relaxed."
"I believe in my abilities."
Effective affirmations are clear, realistic, personal, believable and in the present tense. They will also aid you in achieving your goals. Changing your self-talk is going to play an enormous role in increasing your chance for successful performances on a more consistent basis. William Shakespeare said, "Nothing is good or bad, but thinking makes it so." The all important first step in this process is monitoring your own thoughts; the next step is controlling them. If you’re able to control your thoughts, you can accomplish more than you were aware of - the task is a hard one, but more than worth the effort. It’s important to use repetition with your affirmation statements.
Believe wholeheartedly in the affirmations that you are telling yourself. The beliefs we hold were learned and can be unlearned if necessary. Believe what you say, even if it is not true at the moment - when you were "learning" all the limiting beliefs they were also not true (Porter & Foster). "The more positive you think, the more positive results you can expect. That has always been my philosophy and I live with that philosophy," says Bob Quinn, Ex-General Manager, NY Yankees, Cincinnati Reds, SF Giants.
"The one thing over which you have absolute control is your thoughts. It is this that puts you in a position to control your own destiny." Paul G. Thomas
"Life Strategy"
Do you have a life strategy? It's not a plan, but more like a process.
The process of adjusting to life and of getting what you most want is a
continual one, even though your goals may change at any time. But if you
understand the process, you'll also understand that developing a life
strategy is a great idea.
Now, a life strategy is not a life plan. A plan tells you what route to
take to accomplish a specific goal, and plans are valuable. But a life
strategy offers a more flexible, large-scale umbrella under which your plans
can take shape.
A strategy begins and ends with values - a prioritized listing of what is
important to you. Things like self-discovery, personal and spiritual growth,
mental and physical well being, meeting challenge and adversity in a calm
and centered way, harmonious and loving relationships, etc.
Once you know what you value, you can set goals to help you bring about
end-results that are aligned with your values. That's a strategy, and it's
bigger than individual goals, but every bit as important.
Without an overall strategy, you may climb the ladder of success, but when
you get to the top you may find that it's leaning against the wrong tree.
You may find that the one with all the fruit is just out of reach, if you
haven't developed a good strategy to get there. Make sense?
- Lou Tice
Do you have a life strategy? It's not a plan, but more like a process.
The process of adjusting to life and of getting what you most want is a
continual one, even though your goals may change at any time. But if you
understand the process, you'll also understand that developing a life
strategy is a great idea.
Now, a life strategy is not a life plan. A plan tells you what route to
take to accomplish a specific goal, and plans are valuable. But a life
strategy offers a more flexible, large-scale umbrella under which your plans
can take shape.
A strategy begins and ends with values - a prioritized listing of what is
important to you. Things like self-discovery, personal and spiritual growth,
mental and physical well being, meeting challenge and adversity in a calm
and centered way, harmonious and loving relationships, etc.
Once you know what you value, you can set goals to help you bring about
end-results that are aligned with your values. That's a strategy, and it's
bigger than individual goals, but every bit as important.
Without an overall strategy, you may climb the ladder of success, but when
you get to the top you may find that it's leaning against the wrong tree.
You may find that the one with all the fruit is just out of reach, if you
haven't developed a good strategy to get there. Make sense?
- Lou Tice
Tuesday, July 22, 2003
The Greatest Pain in Life
The greatest pain in life is not to die, but to be ignored.
To lose the person you love so much to another who doesn't care at all. To have someone you care so about so much throw a party... and not tell you about it. When your favorite person on earth neglects to invite you to his graduation. To have people think that you don't care. The greatest pain in life, is not to die, but to be forgotten. To be left in the dust after another's great achievement. To never get a call from a friend, just saying "hi". When you show someone your innermost thoughts and they laugh at your face. For friends to always be too busy to console you when you need someone to lift your spirits. When it seems like the only person who cares about you, is you. Life is full of pain, but does it ever get better? Will people ever care about each other, and make time for those who are in need? Each of us has a part to play in this great show we call life. Each of us has a duty to mankind to tell our friends we love them. If you do not care about your friends you will not be punished. You will simply be ignored... forgotten... as you have done to others. This poem was written by a young girl who committed suicide some years ago. Please show someone you care for them today. It takes so little of your time to smile, give a hug, a word of encouragement or just to say "I care" You will be rewarded for sure:-)
The greatest pain in life is not to die, but to be ignored.
To lose the person you love so much to another who doesn't care at all. To have someone you care so about so much throw a party... and not tell you about it. When your favorite person on earth neglects to invite you to his graduation. To have people think that you don't care. The greatest pain in life, is not to die, but to be forgotten. To be left in the dust after another's great achievement. To never get a call from a friend, just saying "hi". When you show someone your innermost thoughts and they laugh at your face. For friends to always be too busy to console you when you need someone to lift your spirits. When it seems like the only person who cares about you, is you. Life is full of pain, but does it ever get better? Will people ever care about each other, and make time for those who are in need? Each of us has a part to play in this great show we call life. Each of us has a duty to mankind to tell our friends we love them. If you do not care about your friends you will not be punished. You will simply be ignored... forgotten... as you have done to others. This poem was written by a young girl who committed suicide some years ago. Please show someone you care for them today. It takes so little of your time to smile, give a hug, a word of encouragement or just to say "I care" You will be rewarded for sure:-)
